Yesterday was Faith's first day of pre-school. After a month since coming over, I was glad to see some kind of a routine slowly taking shape. For the past month, she has been playing and sleeping at all sorts of hours, often resulting in our difficulty to wake her up at "normal" time in the morning. Quite a big disruption to our own individual timings when she is out of sync with the rest of the family.Anyway, the first daily report (click to enlarge) came in and we were pleased to see nothing out of the ordinary, except that she has some trouble following the school's nap time. Still, not too shabby for a first day at school.
Then it got me thinking. Now this is one heck of an expensive school. Won't the school "pad the report" with "flowers and butterflies" so as not to risk upsetting the parents? Upset parents are definitely not good for the school's revenue stream, if you get what I mean.
Then, there was this morning when we couldn't get Faith to get out of bed again. She was definitely wide awake, considering the fact that she put up such a big struggle to stay asleep and was bawling and throwing tantrum fits, much to the amusement of Gabriel.
Then I got worried. Did something bad happened in school the day before and that Faith was unable to tell us? I can get quite paranoid sometimes, I tell you. Haiz....
Anyway, the doubt was quickly discarded as I decided that it was just Faith being a spoiled brat. We have only just finished with her Terrible Two stage and now we are embarking on her Testing Three i.e. testing the limits of her boundaries by constantly pushing your buttons until one finally detonate the Jay-Bomb. I think the wife spoils the kids too much as I was ready to give her the first taste of the rotan already. Alas, she had her lucky escape as I haven't gotten round to buying one yet. It is a matter of time now before she steps on another Jay-Landmine.
It was with much effort that we finally gotten her into her school clothes and bundling her into the school bus.
Finally, peace and quiet in the house again.
As I was sipping my morning coffee, I saw a school bus pulled up at my front gate. I panicked again. What now? Are they ejecting Faith?
Then I realised it was the school bus of another pre-school.
Note to self: Learn to recognise Faith's school bus.
- Voxeros
1. mht left...
Tuesday, 4 April 2006 1:58 pm
congrats! the anxiety never ends....
2. akk left...
Tuesday, 4 April 2006 2:42 pm
i guess you'll be blogging about getting the cane? heheeheh...
3. JayWalk left...
mht & akk: The wife is the new age type while I am old skool type.
Dunno when hantam that time who more pain? Faith or Jay? Hmm....
Also hor, I scared caned already, she go and associate going to school with negative elements. Then I would have to focus on Gabriel as the sole provider of my retirement pocket money liao. ~LOL
mht & akk: The wife is the new age type while I am old skool type.
Dunno when hantam that time who more pain? Faith or Jay? Hmm....
Also hor, I scared caned already, she go and associate going to school with negative elements. Then I would have to focus on Gabriel as the sole provider of my retirement pocket money liao. ~LOL
4. aloe left...
Think with the current parent's teaching methods nowadays, kids are getting spoilt. -_-"' my niece included. haaa!
Tuesday, 4 April 2006 3:23 pm
wah! they got such reports de arh! But science = 自然 aka natural?? wahahahah!! Still got number of times she shitted! Think with the current parent's teaching methods nowadays, kids are getting spoilt. -_-"' my niece included. haaa!
5. mht left...
normally as parents, 一个唱黑脸，一个唱白脸。
at the end of the day, cannot spare the rod and spolit the child hor!
Tuesday, 4 April 2006 3:31 pm
打在 faith 身上，痛在 jay 心上! normally as parents, 一个唱黑脸，一个唱白脸。
at the end of the day, cannot spare the rod and spolit the child hor!
6. JayWalk left...
Anna: I say already earlier, this school quite the expensive one hor.
mht: In a slightly more crude Hokkien word of the wise:
"Bor Kan Bor Tua Han".
I also agree that the rod must not be spared.
Anna: I say already earlier, this school quite the expensive one hor.
mht: In a slightly more crude Hokkien word of the wise:
"Bor Kan Bor Tua Han".
I also agree that the rod must not be spared.
7. mht left...
Tuesday, 4 April 2006 3:48 pm
the debate on 'to use or not to use' can go on till the end of time...whatever the case maybe, exercise caution, discretion and moderation...
8. JayWalk left...
mht: I have my reservations on caning on 2 counts.
1) The risk of associating a bad thing (caning) with a good thing (going to school).
2) If caning is administered too often, then it loses its value liao. Kids become resistant to it and no longer fear it. Worse, may even start to instill a hatred for authority.
Am I thinking too much here?
mht: I have my reservations on caning on 2 counts.
1) The risk of associating a bad thing (caning) with a good thing (going to school).
2) If caning is administered too often, then it loses its value liao. Kids become resistant to it and no longer fear it. Worse, may even start to instill a hatred for authority.
Am I thinking too much here?
9. mht left...
give her a week or two to acclimatise to the new routine. i do not know about other parents, but i choose to let my kids attend second session (ie 11am plus to 2pm) of preschool over the first session (8am plus to 10 plus). but if her current preschool is single-sessioned, then u do not hv much choice. try to get her to sleep early. but above all, she must enjoy preschool.
good luck!
Tuesday, 4 April 2006 5:02 pm
caning 'faith' to force her to go to school may not be a wise thing. perhaps she need some time to get use to the routine of going to school. like kids, we adults also '晚上睡不着，早上起不来' too. give her a week or two to acclimatise to the new routine. i do not know about other parents, but i choose to let my kids attend second session (ie 11am plus to 2pm) of preschool over the first session (8am plus to 10 plus). but if her current preschool is single-sessioned, then u do not hv much choice. try to get her to sleep early. but above all, she must enjoy preschool.
good luck!
10. JayWalk left...
mht: You are spot on with that. Hence no cane nor punishment meted out yet.
mht: You are spot on with that. Hence no cane nor punishment meted out yet.
11. Mum2One left...
The problem maybe her late nights and not her being a spoilt brat?
And, finally having more of a taste of hands-on parenting, I see? It's all fun and games, isn't it?! Life changing...
Tuesday, 4 April 2006 6:33 pm
Since you know my stance on the rod, I won't attempt to repeat that blog here. But good thinking about the association of schooling with negative feelings - who say you not new age?!? That's new age already. The problem maybe her late nights and not her being a spoilt brat?
And, finally having more of a taste of hands-on parenting, I see? It's all fun and games, isn't it?! Life changing...
12. kim left...
I support the cane. No way should one spoil the child. My children (in the future) will definitely not be spared from the rod. Maybe I'm too harsh. And I guess it's 'cause I'm not a mother yet. Hahaha..
Tuesday, 4 April 2006 7:00 pm
haha.. shifu worried -- a brand new side that I have never seen before. But so cute la, you worrying. I support the cane. No way should one spoil the child. My children (in the future) will definitely not be spared from the rod. Maybe I'm too harsh. And I guess it's 'cause I'm not a mother yet. Hahaha..
13. JayWalk left...
Mum2One: I am definitely old skool. I will cringe at sight of parents letting their kids run amok in public. It is a sign of either a) simply don't care or b) simple defeated.
Either way is no good.
I think this is about the time a person aged significantlt. A transition from a young adult to that of a Lao Ah Pek overnight.
kIm: Life is a bucket of endless worrying. Sigh....
Mum2One: I am definitely old skool. I will cringe at sight of parents letting their kids run amok in public. It is a sign of either a) simply don't care or b) simple defeated.
Either way is no good.
I think this is about the time a person aged significantlt. A transition from a young adult to that of a Lao Ah Pek overnight.
kIm: Life is a bucket of endless worrying. Sigh....
14. jaschocolate left...
More impt is to let her understand what she did wrong.. why it is wrong.. u know it is like treating your staff.. verbal warning, written warning, then final warning before dismissal..
And bus also cannot recognise? u are getting old liao.. :p
Tuesday, 4 April 2006 9:13 pm
i don't think caning is a good method.. still remember how my bro and i always threw away my mom's cane when she bought one.. More impt is to let her understand what she did wrong.. why it is wrong.. u know it is like treating your staff.. verbal warning, written warning, then final warning before dismissal..
And bus also cannot recognise? u are getting old liao.. :p
15. Zhe Bin left...
Am I being 班门弄斧 here ah? Like 'teaching' a father to teach his kids. LOL! Don't take it the wrong way okie. = D
Also, I can't stand the parents allowing their kids to fucking misbehave also. Knn and they can like smile along and admire their kids. CCB. Like they are the world's greatest kids on earth. Buay kia lang du lan.
Tuesday, 4 April 2006 10:17 pm
I think the 没反应 option in the report like a lil weird. Fainted also can be considered 没反应 right. Haha. Then got tick means what. Emotionless ah? Hmm. I think to chase your kid with a cane is quite erm.. a difficult task to do lah. In terms of many many stuffs. But hor I was brought up that way.. and before I do anything I would think of the cane. So not v.good. Maybe 1 or 2 strokes is fine lah, then talk to her extensively. At least she will remember the talking part more. Not the caning part. Am I being 班门弄斧 here ah? Like 'teaching' a father to teach his kids. LOL! Don't take it the wrong way okie. = D
Also, I can't stand the parents allowing their kids to fucking misbehave also. Knn and they can like smile along and admire their kids. CCB. Like they are the world's greatest kids on earth. Buay kia lang du lan.
16. Jaslyn left...
Kids nowadays, cannot always rotan one.. very bad! Must communicate! You know... Its a communication generation! hehehe
Tuesday, 4 April 2006 10:20 pm :: http://precious-jas.blogspot.com
Piangz! I kept laughing while reading this post leh. I think its like the 1st time I read and feel what a gan cheong father you are over your little princess. Can also imagine your face when you wanna rotan but no cane! Hahaa.. *pull hair* Kids nowadays, cannot always rotan one.. very bad! Must communicate! You know... Its a communication generation! hehehe
17. JayWalk left...
Jaschocolate, Zhebin & Jaslyn: Like I said caning is only as a last resort. Of course, communication to make her understand what she did was wrong is definitely the better solution.
But then hor, you know kids nowadays damn smart one. One ear in, one ear out. Pretending to listen but nothing register inside the head. Machiam like I speaking a different language like that.
KNN. Chor lim peh du lan....
Ok lor, english no understand hor? mandarin also act blur hor? hokkien also kar lim peh tee gong right?
Then we speak Bahasa Rotan, ai mai?
Jaschocolate: First day of school bus mah... then the colourful sticker tar all over the bus, difficult to tell them apart lah...
Zhe Bin: You not move door play axe lah. I appreciate your input in any form.
Eh. You shot gun before is it? Then how come know so much about father-hood har? :P
I am so going to High-Five you on the BKLDL part.
Jaslyn: Again, I reiterate lor, I agree with you that cannot always rotan. Sekali they like it how? wahahahaah.....
Jaschocolate, Zhebin & Jaslyn: Like I said caning is only as a last resort. Of course, communication to make her understand what she did was wrong is definitely the better solution.
But then hor, you know kids nowadays damn smart one. One ear in, one ear out. Pretending to listen but nothing register inside the head. Machiam like I speaking a different language like that.
KNN. Chor lim peh du lan....
Ok lor, english no understand hor? mandarin also act blur hor? hokkien also kar lim peh tee gong right?
Then we speak Bahasa Rotan, ai mai?
Jaschocolate: First day of school bus mah... then the colourful sticker tar all over the bus, difficult to tell them apart lah...
Zhe Bin: You not move door play axe lah. I appreciate your input in any form.
Eh. You shot gun before is it? Then how come know so much about father-hood har? :P
I am so going to High-Five you on the BKLDL part.
Jaslyn: Again, I reiterate lor, I agree with you that cannot always rotan. Sekali they like it how? wahahahaah.....
18. Mum2One left...
Wednesday, 5 April 2006 7:51 pm
Ok, so your stance is to use it as a last resort, right? So my question is: What behaviour is considered bad? Since "bad behaviour" is quite a subjective term. Some may think they are just NORMAL, and some with little tolerance (usually those who themselves grew up in a strict environment) will think little things as bad behaviour. So where is the line, leh?
19. JayWalk left...
Mum2One: You asked a tough question! So far I have yet to use the cane yet. I supposed I still have to wait until I am very sure that she knows exactly what the punishment is for.
She needs to know exactly why she is being whacked, instead of the usual punishments.
Until then, I just have to try my best to keep my head from exploding.
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